My uncle, Steve, served aboard a U.S. Navy submarine based out of Guam during the Vietnam war.
He passed on Easter Sunday just this last month. I know I will get to see him again someday when my spirit slips the surly bonds of flesh and earth as his just did.
He has been battling cancer for a few years now — multiple sclerosis for a few years before that.
Sorry it’s taken so long to post this, but I was waiting on more Details to come — scanned photos, photos of any service pins, etc. I will post all I can (and appropriate) when I can get a hold of such things.
I think the most wonderful thing that came out of this was the tremendous outpouring of love I witnessed from my father toward his younger brother throughout his ordeal… Taking care of loose ends (to put it nicely); Consulting an attourney to construct a will & living will; Arranging proper hospice care and trying to get Medicaid set up for him (which in the end was unnecessary); Comforting their mother; Staying with Steve for nearly a month in my grandmother’s Colorado home until the end. It’s a side of my Dad that doesn’t make frequent appearances except when the situation calls for it, and then it flows generously. I love him so very much and can only hope that I am as compassionate with my family.
I’d like to talk about Kim du Toit’s quote of the on Tuesday, April 5th and this story sent to him by a reader. It’s an old Boston Pheonix article, written by a Gun Fearing Wussy (thanks, Kim, for that term) who mustered up enough humanity to seek out actual instruction on the use of deadly force available to nearly all Americans.
I consider Massad Ayoob to be one of the preeminent authorities on the use of deadly force. He’s been a police officer for over two decades, written heaps of smart articles and books on the subject, been an expert witness in countless trial cases, and in my own opinion, has the right attitude regarding deadly force.
Here’s the 411 folks: as a gun owner, I pray I will never have to draw my weapon to defend myself or my family, let alone fire it. But, until then, I will practice and hone my skills so that if the unfortunate time comes, death will be swift and sure for the attacker. No second thoughts, no regrets, no question for police or a jury. However, no matter how justified, I will still have to live with that for the rest of my life. Combat is one thing, as I’ve learned from my brother-in-law. Killing another citizen, even in your own mortal defense, as Ayoob describes, is something completely different.
Some would call it wrong; Ayoob and I call it surviving. Better to be tried by 12 than carried by 6, as the saying goes.